Tunes in my head: Love Will Tear Us Apart by Joy Division
Books of a page: Act of Union by Seamus Heaney
Atmosphere: Meh.
Attraction, hmm.
It's a strange beast, I think. The mechanics behind it, what we look for, why we look for those things.
Why is it so fucking hard to actually make a match, to find somebody? I have these experiences of people saying they're attracted to me. But because I refuse to hurt them, I decline their advances politely. Yes, it hurts them, I know.
And then, when I'm attracted to a person, as it happens rarely (VERY rarely), it never seems to work out at all. The stars aren't aligned right, they find someone better, some other fucking bullshit.
Why? Why are we so picky?
I mean, from a purely biological standpoint...it makes some sense.
But from an emotional one, it doesn't.
Everyone has good and bad within us. We have positive traits and negative traits.
This is absolutely unavoidable.
So why do we hold out hope for the perfect person when they will never come?
It will never happen, and in our hearts, we know that.
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Are you suggesting that if you "widen your net" so to speak, that you'll have more chance of success?
Or raging at how picky other people are?
If it's the first, then that's true to an extent, but you should consider that the people newly within your magic zone of attraction will be less of a 'match' to your own personality, etc. Also that in a sense you are compromising yourself (even if you think you might gain from it). And of course there is the problem of actually managing to specify who you happen to feel attracted to (which seems to at least manifest itself as an emotional thing and so is unpredictable and silly).
If it's the latter, it could be the usual round of suspects, i.e. incompatibility. Or it could be that the person in question thinks that they can do better. Or that they are concerned about how it might affect their social position (a large consideration for many people, it seems).
It occurs to me that these are much the same thing, except in one instance you are the 'perpetrator' and in the other case the 'victim'. As usual I have written some junk without thinking and lost my train of thought. So, uh, yes.
Why is it that you feel that having a relationship is such a critical thing?
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